Marriage & Couples Counseling

If you landed on this pages please know that working with Couples is my specialty and passion! 

I have invested a lot of time to be well versed in understanding the power of intimate relationships.  I use Gottman method developed by Dr. John Gottman and Dr. Julie Schwartz Gottman. The assessment & interventions that I use are all research based and grounded in the Sound  Relationship house theory.   

Interventions are designed to improve couples friendship and the ability to mange conflict.  They also help couples understand the difference between perpetual and resolvable conflicts, and how to deal with perpetual problems. 

It is so frustrating when you fight hard to get your point across but seems that your partner is simply not willing to meet you at the halfway point.  Maybe all you want is for them to hear you out, show some empathy, or just give you a hug.  Whether you have been together for one week or one hundred years,  the need for connection, intimacy, and acceptance will always be what humans strive for.  

Not only that, but the conversation might take a turn that you were not expecting.  They might get critical, judgmental, and even defensive.  Sounds familiar?  

Sometimes couples think that time will fix their problems, or maybe when they get married, have kids, pray more, or even take a break.   Unfortunately, with time, if struggles are pushed under the rug, couples develop rigidness, ,resentment, and hopelessness. 

What if someone can hold your hands as a couple, shed light on certain areas of your relationship, show you a detailed map that could guide you to your destination? That's what couples counseling is all about. 

Will the counselor do all the magic? 
It is not magical, the counselor is not a miracle worker. A healthy relationship  requires openness, vulnerability, and hard work.  The difference is, this time around, you’re not alone, remember? there's a map and a destination.

You might think to yourself , By initiating counseling I'm basically the one sacrificing again, right? 

I get a lot of couples in my office who come with the intention of changing their partners or dragged by their partners to counseling.  Okay, so  it seems one of you had to compromise to make our meeting happen.  
We can talk a lot about the difference between compromise Vs. sacrifice. The fact that in the relationship there is compromise means that the affection towards one another is still alive and that is an excellent place to begin counseling. 

I failed in my marriage, that's why I'm here.

Absolutely not. Starting counseling does not mean that your relationship is doomed. It does not mean that you chose the wrong person or that you failed.  No, It means that you are smart enough to recognize that you are working at a lifetime investment. It's through facing the struggles that couples go through that teaming with your partner becomes Possible.